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I’ve been thinking about this Pay It Forward concept that I discovered recently courtesy T. I look up and down my blogroll and think “but I want to recommend ALL of them! Not to mention the stonesoupers and livejournalists who aren’t even singled out!” And I decided it was far too hard to choose, so I haven’t. Not yet anyway.
Instead, I draw your attention to the fascinating work of two folk on that blogroll, both of whom have written about Dating For Geeks.
Susan, over on Thinking With My Hands, has posted what I hope is the first part of a series: Geeks on dates. Choosing whether to even start thinking about going for the other person. Sample:

So, do you fancy them? If you don’t there’s no point. Oh, you don’t know how to tell if you fancy them? Well, how are your palms? Hairy? Ah ha ha. No, the more relaxed you are the dryer your skin is and so the higher the skin’s electrical resistance, when you’re stressed (or excited) your hand sweats and the resistance goes down. Go on, build a Galvanic Skin Response Sensor and work it out.

Whereas self-professed biggeek D3vo has been blogging his adventures in dating for quite some time. His online writings are all in his very distinctive voice, but you don’t get the full effect without being face to face – about a year ago we were having coffee every few days and he expounded on several of his dating theories in absolutely compelling fashion. I really think there’s a market for ‘the engineer’s approach to dating’ and he should write it. Excerpt:

Speed dating is all talk and no action in my experience, a bit like dealing with business partners in startups. It appears to be an extended and ritualised form of the disposable conversations you have with anonymous travelers when you fly long distance on a plane.

I love this stuff. Go read.
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In other news, Cal and I have found an apartment in Newtown. We move in during May. Hurrah!

Three linky:
Linky 1: Aliens Papercraft Models. Taking fascination for the movie Aliens to a level even I find worrying, this determined soul has invested many hours in creating exquisite fold-up models of the vehicles and structures seen, however briefly, in Jim Cameron’s film. Check out this life-size Pulse Rifle made entirely from paper. Wild.
Linky 2: Captain Typho blog. NZ export (former Play School host, now action hero) Jay Lagai’a has a blog, and it’s all Star Wars, all the time. Begins with a four-part description of how he fell in love with Princess Leia. (Start here.) (Also, this was honestly not me.)
Linky 3: WellyKid Sonal Patel is newly transplanted to London, and keeping her writing muscles in shape by writing a script in her blog, publishing a new installment most days. The first Daily Cereal was a heck of a lot of fun, and the second has just launched, so get in on the ground floor for this one – a great jumping-on point for new readers!
It is Monday. These have been your linky.
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Bonus linky for other geeky 80s kids: series bible for Masters of the Universe. Did you know Beast-Man’s first name was Biff? Also, the Frank Langella/Dolph Lundgren 80s MOTU movie was a deliberate homage to Jack Kirby’s Fourth World.

For Friday the13th, I give you…
EYES OF THE MONSTER!

Continue reading Friday Frights

Span has a post linking to some discussion of the proposed code of conduct for bloggers, which was a response to the Kathy Sierra nastiness I mentioned a few weeks ago. My response to the questions at the end of the post spun a little bit out of control. So I’m gonna reproduce it here, because I haven’t got anything else to blog about just yet and why the heck not? Span asked:

A few questions for readers:
1. Do you think that unmoderated comments improve the dialogue or lead to degredation?
2. Does trolling tend towards the racist and sexist, and does it make blogging less attractive to those who aren’t part of the dominant demographic? Should we even be interested in creating a blogosphere that is more diverse?
3. Is trolling about bullying* people into conformity? Or do people just need to “harden up”?
And finally:
What can we do about trolling if we don’t like it? Should we do anything at all?

And I replied…
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Hey Span, this one is a big deal for me. I’ve been intensely involved in online discussions pretty much non-stop since I arrived at university in February 1994, and I’ve seen a lot of horrible, horrible behaviour. I sometimes overreact. It’s a bit of a weakness.
That said – I can’t quite formulate an answer to your question one. (“Do you think that unmoderated comments improve the dialogue or lead to degredation?”) I need to reinterpret it slightly to get somewhere meaningful for me, so hope this makes sense…
It isn’t the presence or absence of moderation or otherwise that improves or degrades the dialogue – it’s the participants in the comments environment.
I think that, if a comments section has attracted participants who start its deterioration, it will inevitably continue along that track unless there is a moderation policy in place and followed (and even if there is it might still go that way).
By and large, I think there’s clear merit to comment moderation, and that objections to such moderation are usually made in ignorance. If you have a high enough profile, or if you have a large enough user base, or if you blog about contentious issues, you will find trouble in your comments. You will attract trolls, non-troll commenters will get angry at each other and say terrible things, etc.
There is a cost. Unmoderated comments do give an unrestricted window into a subject of debate. But, in all seriousness, anyone who thinks this cost is anything but trivial is deluded. *Everything* of value to a discussion can be contributed without attracting moderation. Everything.
Common responses to moderation are to deride moderators for cowardice, fragility, or outright intellectual dishonesty via censorship. These objections hit home because they tie into what we value about our ability to engage with ideas. These objections are also completely disingenous and meritless. Disregard them entirely.
That part-answers question 3, too. (‘Is trolling about bullying* people into conformity? Or do people just need to “harden up”?’) Trolling is a form of bullying, but its goal is rarely conformity; the goal is to emotionally hurt or confuse or degrade the target, and perhaps to silence them.
I honestly believe that many – most? – of the nastiest trolls rationalise their behaviour as part of a massive exercise in online social darwinism, where they are testing people to see if they are strong enough to say what they wish. Of course, they usually don’t have any supporting argument as to why anyone should prove their strength to random abusers; and if they do, it is bound to be founded on an assumption that online communication is not “real” communication, that it’s all a great game with gladitorial rules.
(There is nothing I hate more than someone being an absolute bastard online then when called on it say “it’s just online stuff, it doesn’t matter, forget about it”. You see less of that in 2007 than you saw in 1997, but it still turns up a lot.)
The social norms of the real world are enforced by powerful drivers – our reputation, our understanding of shared fates and future interactions, the network of acquaintances and friends between us and the responsibility we bear for a complex social network.
Online, we have a social system without these drivers for social norms. There is nothing wrong or weak in imposing them forcibly.
The best frame for this is one of host privilege and host responsibility. The owner of a place is entitled to set rules and enforce the tone and need offer no justification beyond “that is how I wish it to be; if you disagree, go play elsewhere”. Netiquette has already instituted this as the primary rationale for moderation of all kinds, and it’s a good one for a bunch of reasons, as sociologists/psychologists/communications people will all recognise.
Question two – does trolling work to suppress diversity online – absolutely. Bad behaviour online comes when someone feels their terrain is threatened, their turf is compromised, that someone is speaking untruths or insults about their tribe. The dominant demographic in any society will inevitably react badly to other voices, because those voices will as a matter of course tread on all of these spaces.
Furthermore, abusive online behaviour feeds on itself; the more of it there is, the more of it there will be. As the dominant demographic has an advantage of numbers, that sets up a feedback loop.
A diverse blogosphere is, to me, a self-evident good. I could try and muster an argument about why it is good, but it would be like trying to argue that pineapple tastes nice – it isn’t necessary, is it?
So, in summary, if you don’t like trolling – yeah, do something about it. Shut it down. Demand that trolls either be silent or express themselves better. Be unapologetic about protecting the tone of your virtual living room.
(Or, as I’ve seen you do here Span, engage with someone using a trollish and aggressive posting style and see if you can get decent contribution out of them. But that takes a lot of effort and there’s no shame in being ruthless.)
Doing nothing is not an option.
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Go check out Span’s actual post for more from people who aren’t me.

Email conversation, Feb 27:
Me: Do you know I now habitually mouseover images to see Achewood-style extra gags? Even if the images are not even humour strips?
Pearce: I do too! Sometimes to things that aren’t on the internet. Like my workmates.
Me: *mouses over Pearce*
Pearce: “Donald Trump”

Achewood is actually one of those things people will still be talking about in twenty-five years.
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Since I last mentioned it here, the “anti-smacking bill” has… well, stayed in exactly the same place. The public by a large majority is unhappy with the prospect of the bill, the religious right is leading the protests and making much hay, the whole thing is being roundly misrepresented in the the media and it is the Big Subject Of The Day. Still.
I remain a supporter of the bill, while also appreciating arguments that pushing through any legislation in the face of 80% public opposition is writing for yourselves an electoral unpopularity cheque.
(Handy tip: if you are reading a letter to the editor, column, blog post or so on in which it is specified that the Bill was initiated by a Green List MP, then you can safely skip the rest as it will be a rant against the Greenies and the socialist left sourced entirely in our local version of right-wing talking points.)
I’d like, however, to respond to a claim I’ve seen in a few places by those opposing the bill, most recently over at Span’s place but in other places as well. This is a claim that runs, in general form:
* non-physical forms of corrective punishment (such as time out) are bullying
* they are also psychologically risky and potentially damaging to a child’s self-esteem
* these dangers are more serious than the temporary impact of a corrective smack
To which I say, nonsense. I’ll go further; I think this is a specific, planned kind of nonsense that originates in the U.S. religious right’s spin machine.
Whether true or not, it’s effective rhetoric, turning the liberal sensibilities of those opposed to physical correction against themselves by insisting that psychological wellbeing also be respected. It is the left that usually worries about mental health and understands humans as vulnerable beings; the right is founded on an ideology that frames psychological damage as a failure of will. Secondly, it plays on concerns over power imbalance, another theme of a liberal worldview.
This piece of rhetoric encourages the left to consider its position as both psychologically costly and heedless of power dynamics. This double-whammy is very effective and when I have seen it come up in arguments it seems to be ignored, or perhaps acknowledged but called a side issue. It is rarely if ever tackled head-on. It is proving very useful for those arguing against repeal of section 59 here, just as it has proved useful in similar arguments over physical punishment in other places.
I find it hard to believe that something this effective arose spontaneously. No, I’d put even money on this being a carefully crafted piece of counterpropaganda, put together by a media team in a U.S. thinktank.
Also, did I say already that it’s nonsense?
However, this isn’t to say that non-violent parental correction can’t be psychologically damaging. It can be. You can mess up your kid for life without ever lifting a finger, if you dominate them or neglect them. But non-violent correction techniques, those that make up the basics of good parenting, don’t do these things. “Time out”, the naughty step, and so on and so forth, are not psychologically harmful. In fact, that’s the whole point of them. Any claim that they are is simple nonsense.
Physical correction isn’t necessarily harmful. It can be. A case could be made that it always is, but you’d need to argue that one. Almost everyone agrees that a corrective smack isn’t aesthetically pleasing, either. What is indisputable however is this: physical correction normalises physical violence.
In other words, there is no way you can weigh up smacking vs. time-out and say smacking is less harmful. And yet people have made exactly this claim. Such a claim is simple nonsense. There is no grounds for debate here. You can argue that smacking is not significantly more harmful; you can certainly argue that smacking is more effective; you can argue that the greater harm is balanced with a greater good. But the rhetorical ground occupied by the claim discussed above isn’t even there to be claimed.
Finally, its worth noting that a lot of people on both sides of the debate have been stacking the deck in their comparisons. For example, the ultra-rational patriach dishing out loving, corrective smacks on the behind of an errant child is being compared with the loopy liberal mother letting her child run wild, or the aggressive and repressed raging dad who won’t physically damage his child but will abuse them psychologically. (Or, the sensible parent sending an errant child to the naughty room is being compared with a young parent with anger control issues and a license to smack.) My bias may be showing but I think it’s much more common for this unfair comparison to turn up in those opposing the s59 repeal. This imbalance shows up in the ‘time out is more damaging’ nonsense, where the non-physical parent is a domineering monster and the physical parent is a restrained and sensible soul. Watch out for this stuff – it’s all over the place, making it even harder to see through the heat haze and smoke plumes and engage with what is actually being discussed.

Is there a creepier word in the lexicon than “purity”?
NZ Christian outfit Focus on the Family is planning a Purity Camp where girls will learn to “stand up for purity”. Meaning, of course, sexual purity. The camp was apparently inspired by Purity Balls in the U.S., where Christian fathers pledge to ensure their daughter doesn’t lose her virginity before she is married. It looks like the inspiration was general, not specific, and the camp will do its own thing with the idea.
I’m not going to write about the pros and cons of preserving your virginity until marriage, or even of recruiting your father to keep your hymen intact. Today I’m just interested in the word purity. What a horrible, horrible word. Decode it with me for a second.
Purity originally referred only to an aspect of the physical world – the amount to which a mineral or a liquid was mixed with other substances. Purity was heavily associated with value; pure substances are valuable; the less pure they are, the less valuable they are. (According to this dictionary the word was first applied to morality and moral corruption in the 14th century.)
“Purity” in terms of sexuality is a metaphorical construct. This metaphor claims that morality or selfhood or godliness is like a substance that can be diluted by another (bad) substance, namely sexuality. Sexual behaviour makes you impure, like a drop of ink into a glass of water. Sexual behaviour makes you less valuable.
All of this means that the metaphor of “purity”, like in the Purely Girls Camp, implies two unpleasant things.
1) As a young girl, your sexuality is not really part of you, but something apart from your pure self that you can and should battle to control and strive to escape. You are less valuable if you don’t.
2) As a young girl, your value should be and will be evaluated and judged by an external observer. Purity is not a statement of self-assessment, but an evaluation made from without.
I hate the word “purity”. It has little to do with Christian values – a loving and forgiving God could not begin to engage with the condemnatory underpinning of the word. Instead, I think the word is in such common use – particularly in the U.S. – because of its associations with traditional views of women as property. Fathers signing purity pledges aren’t so much worried that God will see their daughters as impure; they’re worried that other fathers will.
The Purely Girls camp is its own thing. It won’t, I hope, be echoing the deeply disturbing aspects of the Purity Balls. Still, the language in use suggests that a troubling ideology will be part of what is conveyed at the camp. Girls won’t just learn how to say no; they’ll learn that their sexuality is their enemy, and that it is right and proper for them to be judged for their purity.
They’ll probably wait a few years longer before having sex, though. That makes it all seem worthwhile.
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(Further reading: from everyone’s favourite official White House website, Operation Infinite Purity.)

I turn 31 at about midday today, Monday April 2. This means I can no longer deny to myself that I am now in my late 20s. Well, perhaps my mid-20s.
If you are reading this, whether you actually know me personally or not, I request of you the traditional From the Morgue birthday gift – a quotation in the comments. Comment on this post with a quote from anywhere, about anything. It can be funny or wise or silly or sombre or nonsensical. Quote your bus ticket; quote the bible. Give me some words sourced in the world.
The birthday wisdom posts get more google traffic than any other part of this site. So think of future generations of googlers who will come here seeking enlightenment, and give them something to read. And for me too. Because it’s my birthday.
Birthday Wisdom 2004
Birthday Wisdom 2005
Birthday Wisdom 2006

Newspaper comic strips. I do like the good ones, and here in NZ we tend to only get the good ones; or at least the not-awful ones. The pages and pages of laugh-free strips I remember seeing in newspapers in the U.S. are unknown here; instead our newspapers invest their strip budget in a small number of reliably good strips. And also the Wizard of Id.
The Dom Post has been running classic Peanuts, and this year it has hit a bunch of strips I’ve never seen before, back when Snoopy was still 90% dog and several long-running gags were only just being set up. Really neat to see. Sparky was a delightful cartoonist.
And, while mentioning Schulz, I always appreciated that he thought highly of legendary local strip Footrot Flats. That’s also in reruns, and is currently approaching the end, when Murray Ball finally gave some of his characters closure – so there’s Wal getting married to Cheeky, and Cooch finally admitting his feelings for Kathy. Its an amazing strip, and worthy of high-quality collection one of these days.
But what’s been catching my attention this week is Doonesbury. Trudeau’s long-running political strip has hit a whole new level in the era of the second Gulf War. This week’s storyline has injured veteran B.D. (who had a leg blown off in Iraq a few years ago) encounter a fellow veteran – a woman who suffered sexual assault from her fellow soldiers while in Iraq.
This is pretty incendiary stuff. Sexual abuse of U.S. servicewomen serving in Iraq has been slowly coming into the mainstream discourse over the last few weeks, with the New York Times running a lengthy story on the subject on March 18. The article centred on Suzanne Swift, who suffered sexual abuse during her first tour in Iraq and went AWOL rather than return to more of the same. I’m not sure what the lead times are on Trudeau’s strip but I wouldn’t be surprised if the current storyline is a direct response to this article. In any case, keep an eye on developments in your local paper if it carries Doonesbury, or online at Slate if it doesn’t.
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It feels like all I’m doing at the moment in this blog is linking to stuff. (But that’s okay, because it’s cool stuff!) Tom’s first post at ProjectX about his Wellurban blog reminded me that I’m overdue for a bit of taking stock at what this blog is doing for me, and what I want to be doing for it. I’ll get to it. In the meantime, this counts as more linking to cool stuff – if you’re a blogger, check out that post at ProjectX for some food for thought about what you’re doing.
In other silly link news, check out the other Buffy season 8, and from the movie mash-up genre, A Hard Day’s Night Of The Living Dead…
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And be ready, for on Monday this year’s installment of the Birthday Wisdom quotathon will be upon you…

Since putting Ron to bed have been all over the place. Dabbling is the word I would use; dabbling in various things. Nothing is getting much traction right now. That’s okay, to a point. I’m working on stuff, at least, just not the same stuff from moment to moment.
Need to start chasing up some more freelancey writery work too. In all seriousness, anyone out there needing things written – give me a shout. I do a word thing hell good yessum.
Over at Creating Passionate Users, a blog about usability that was drawn to my attention a couple years ago by Teresa, there’s some nasty stuff going down that just reminds me of the way internet anonymity and a framing of free expression can foster truly horrific behaviour. Don’t really know what to say about that really.
Comics geeks among you should be paying close attention to Grizzled Blog, where each week the Grizzled Andrew explores the descent of mainstream supers comics into gory violence.
And while I’m discussing both the experience of women online and unwelcome trends in comics, its an easy segue into Girls Read Comics (and they’re pissed) which has finally become a regular read for me. Karen Healey writes well about sexist trends in mainstream comics; I recently discovered she’s a Kiwi, which is obviously a point in favour.
Meanwhile, the CSI: Miami stuff a few days back has been linked to all over the place. It isn’t too late to add your own cricket-related sunglasses line.