Ten.

My daughter would be 10 by now.
I remember being 10. Vividly.
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My girlfriend didn’t realise she was pregnant until she had a miscarriage. This isn’t exactly a secret but it I’ve only ever told a handful of people. The ten-year thing must be significant if I’m still thinking about it in February, when the proper anniversary is in mid Jan sometime.

I think it means that I should mark the occasion. Hence this post.

So now you know.

5 thoughts on “Ten.”

  1. *hugs* man.
    My child would be 11 years, 4 months old now.
    I didn’t even find out until someone else let me know that my then ex-girlfriend had an abortion shortly after we broke up.
    …
    I’m very happy I’m not a father. I didn’t want children, I don’t want children, and I doubt I will ever have children.
    But I would’ve liked to be able to make an adult decision with that woman about this, and I sorta resent the choice being taken away from me.
    However, at the same time I totally respect her choice to not have the baby.
    After 12 years I still can’t quite work this one out. I am happy for her to have the abortion, but I also wanted her to tell me she was doing that. I can’t quite work out why that would make any difference, because I couldn’t and wouldn’t have done anything to change her mind whatever her decision was.

  2. Dunno what to say. My thoughts are with you bro, it’s hard to deal with this kind of thing at the best of times.
    *hugs*

  3. Cheers guys. Scott – yeah. Autonomy is an important thing, not just for the effects it has on the world, but for the tools it gives us to be at peace with our situations.
    For what it’s worth, this isn’t something I’m sad about. If anything, thinking about it makes me kind of happy. I think that other life I might have had would have turned out okay.

  4. Did you know that apparently around 90% of woman will have a miscarriage in their lives, but most won’t even realise they were pregnant. My Mum had a miscarriage before I was born and I often think about what that older brother(I always wanted one) would have been like. How did you know that it was a daughter?

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